1. Guide children to correctly understand difficulties and setbacks, and cultivate children's ability to overcome difficulties from an early age.
The process of a child growing up is a process of falling down and getting up again. For small accidents such as falls and bumps, parents should treat them as very natural things in their children's lives. Appropriate treatment such as soothing and bandaging the wound is essential, but it must not be overly stressful. Because what we say and do affects our children all the time. As long as parents know what to do and take it lightly, children will bravely face pain and fear.
2. Carry out situational training to improve children's frustration tolerance
In order to improve children's tolerance for setbacks, teachers and parents should pay attention to setting up situations with varying degrees of difficulty, so that children can gradually experience the training. For example, let children go to the dark room to fetch things; hide their favorite toys and encourage them to find them by themselves. In daily life, parents should encourage children to participate in physical activities, and parents and children play together. Intentionally include some collision activities in the activities, so that children can learn to protect themselves and win in the activities. Children like adults to play games with them the most. In this atmosphere, they tend to become brave without knowing it. Often, they can also show their bravery in other situations. When the child is accidentally injured, we don't make a fuss, just handle the wound according to the situation, and calmly tell the child: Why is it hurt? How to avoid it later? While cultivating a child to be brave, we must also teach him how to judge the degree of danger, learn to avoid danger, and not make him feel fearful.
3. Set an example and enhance children's confidence in resisting setbacks
- Utilize the images of brave characters in books or film and television programs. We can express admiration and admiration when images of brave characters appear in books or in film and television programs, but do not directly ask children to learn from them. Because children will learn positive things from our admiration and admiration, parents' attitudes will play an obvious guiding role as teachers' attitudes. When children face difficulties or suffer from failure and have mood swings, adults do not have to rush Busy arrangements and substitutions, let alone complaining and scolding children. The correct way is for adults to stay with young children to give them a sense of security, and at the same time encourage young children to actively try, find ways to overcome difficulties, and give some guidance when necessary.
- The words and deeds of adults. Every little thing in daily life can reflect the spirit of bravery. For example: seeing a caterpillar, the mother first screamed and ran away, but asked the child to deal with it bravely. This is unrealistic. As teachers, we should pay more attention. Our words and deeds deeply affect the children. In the eyes, the words and deeds of parents and teachers have a profound impact on children. In the eyes of children, parents and teachers are very tall and omnipotent. The attitude of adults in the face of difficulties and setbacks has a great impact on children. Therefore, when adults encounter difficulties and setbacks, they must be calm and brave. In the details of daily life, it is also possible to deliberately cultivate the bravery of children. For example, some parents consciously let their children help in housework, and let their children participate in discussions when dealing with certain family problems. Frustration attitudes, reactions, behaviors, etc. have a subtle influence on children.
- Take advantage of the good behavior of your peers. For example, when a child is afraid to sing in front of the children, the teacher encourages him by saying, "Don't be afraid, you will definitely sing well." Children are just as brave, and they can come up and sing boldly." In this way, under the influence of the example, the children will build up their confidence and sing boldly. The "you are really good", it has become the "I am really good" in children's psychology.
4. Adults encourage and change children's sense of frustration
Only when children are constantly encouraged can they weaken and change their sense of frustration and gain a sense of security and self-confidence in the face of difficulties. Once the child has made progress, the adult must praise and encourage the child with a positive attitude, strengthen the child's behavior, and show the attitude of affirming and trusting the child at any time. The encouragement and affirmation of adults can not only inspire children to pursue self-improvement, change their sense of frustration, but also improve their courage and confidence to continue trying. Of course, a child's physical quality is the material basis for a child's brave character. Therefore, parents and teachers should pay special attention to the physical health of children and enhance their physical fitness. At the same time, through various ways and means to enrich children's knowledge, train children's various life skills, make children mentally prepared to cope with various difficulties and dangers, and gradually form the excellent quality of not being alarmed and not afraid of danger.